If you’re an escort and reading this, does the following statement sound familiar to you:
‘Only old, ugly people who cannot get a date or partner pay for sex’.
Don’t you find that insulting, annoying and frustrating? On the other hand it does say a lot about the people who think this way!
In this blog I am going to mention a few reasons why people use escorts and some of the myths that surround using escort services. Feel free to comment. Intelligently I might add!
According to Maslow, human beings have different levels of need. At the bottom of this hierarchy of needs are the physiological needs which are necessary for survival. These include, shelter, food and sex. I have guys say to Me that it is a shame, or they are sorry that I have to sell sex for money. My response is that it is a job that fills a need, just like grocery stores sell food for money. Would you say to the grocer, ‘I am sorry you have to sell food for money’? No. The grocer has to make a living. So do escorts.
Here are some reasons why people use escorts:
- They are too busy to have a relationship;
- They enjoy the power that comes with paying for escort services;
- They find emotional, as well as physical, release in using escort services;
- They are looking for variety;
- They are able to explore different things with an escort that they would not otherwise be able to do with their partners;
- They are seeking to explore their sexuality, particularly if they had never had sex before.
There are three main myths about escorts and using them. Here they are:
- I am still young and don’t need to pay for sex. Only old people use escorts: Well, the average age of My clients is about 45; the youngest is 28, the oldest is 73. The first time I used an escort was when I first came out of the closet. I was about 32 years old. This myth is rooted in an inflated form of self-esteem driven by pseudomorality.
- Only ugly people who cannot get partners use escorts. I am handsome/beautiful and therefore do not need to pay for sex: Again you would be surprised at the high number of beautiful people who use My services. Of course, you just have to take My word for it since I am bound by escort-client confidentiality not to disclose information.
- This is also the thinking behind some approaches to escorts in order to get their services for free. I am sure my fellow colleagues could testify to this. Escorts, remember, this is your business. Unless you are actively using this as promotion for your business, if this is how you want to run it, then feel free to do so. However, clients must know that we are not all the same or operate in the same way! Besides, this is being totally disrespectful to our profession. By the way, do you know that, as a profession, we have representation? There are other organisations in other countries. If you know of any, feel free to list them in the comments section.
- Bodybuilders also use similar reasoning to opt out of paying for sex. Why should I pay another bodybuilder (for example) for sex? Not all bodybuilders have great sexual experiences. We all could learn a thing or two about having better sex or sexual experiences.
- All escorts are cold and dishonest and are only in it for the money. This is usually the result of having a bad experience where the escort may not have lived up to expectations. Of course, not all escorts are like this. You will find some escorts take great pains to make clients feel comfortable. You will also find that some escorts are pretty straightforward, with no hidden agendas, and are extremely easy to get along with. When clients come to see Me, I do not put on an act, even when I roleplay. What they see is the real Me. If there are certain things a client wants and I cannot do it, I will say so, because it is not about the money. It is about achieving mutual satisfaction and growth.
Of course, there are other myths, but these are the most prevalent ones. I guess as with any stereotype these are generalisations, and, of course, some truth is attached to a stereotype as there are those who will always reinforce the stereotype.
Was it Samantha (Sex in the City) who said, ‘I am a “try-sexual”, I will try anything once’.
If you have never used an escort before, give it a try. What have you got to lose?
Peace…Almando
The Blackhulk